A lot of the times, people lose conversational arguments not because they don’t have sufficient points or because they’re wrong, but because they might be deficit with their speech delivery. It’s like “I know what to say but I don’t know how to say it”. You regret how the argument went and wish you could go back in time to say more things, but your chance is already lost. In this article, I’d be giving 5 tips that will definitely improve your speech delivery during arguments and debates, increasing your chances of being more clearly understood.
1) Don’t rush, Speak calmly and slowly:
This is very important for so many reasons. The major one being that you are a lot less likely to say things that haven’t been thought through, and also less likely to make mistakes. Another one is the fact that people are more likely to respect the argument of someone speaking calmly and fluently than someone rushing and making a lot of mistakes.
2) More facts, less gibberish:
It is not advisable to speak at all during an argument if your points do not contain any facts. Even if you don’t have a lot of them, the fact that you are speaking slowly and calmly and the few things you say are mostly facts, people are bound to see you as a very knowledgeable person, pushing the argument in your Favour. Give as many examples and show as many evidences as possible. For example, you can open a book and show where you got your information from, or open a website to highlight your source of information.
3) Find the flaw in your opponents argument and highlight it by asking questions:
If you didn’t think your opponent’s argument had any flaw, you wouldn’t be arguing in the first place. Be sure to point out what you think it is and if you want to apply more pressure, ask them questions, so many of them! Questions with answers that you know will directly contradict their angle of the debate. This will help any available audience see things from your perspective and also weaken your opponents argument. It can also come in handy when you feel like you’re being cornered.
4) Conceal every ounce of fear and pressure:
I always say, it’s better not to start an argument at all, than to start it and not be able to speak properly or drop the basis of your argument because you are afraid. It becomes a huge loss, you lose the argument because your own will not be substantial enough, and you also end up not passing any knowledge to your opponent at all. This doesn’t challenge their opinions or mindset at all. So what was the point of starting it to begin with? This does not mean that you should be rude, one can be expressive without being rude at all, but showing fear and pressure will reduce how expressive one can be.
5) Never resort to pointless insults, even when you’re losing:
Saying out random insults to your opponents makes it obvious to any observer that you are acting solely on emotions and illogically, this makes you look emotionally immature and ruins the basis of your argument to begin with. It’s better to leave silently than to go out insulting your opponent, because when you leave silently, it leaves room for thought, and people may even begin to consider your argument as the correct one after you leave. Pointless insults ruin this completely before it can even begin.
I hope you picked up a thing or two from this article. Leave a like if you enjoyed this read, and let me know what you think in the comments.